Jade has always had an instinctive need to help children, just knowing there were so many children who needed a safe and loving home solidified her decision to foster a child one day. When she happened to see The Fostering Company North East stand at her local park, she took a leap of faith and registered her intent to foster.
Jade shares her journey in becoming a Foster Carer and the support she received throughout the process; she also discussed how the training she received helps her to meet her foster child’s needs. Jade went through this process with an open heart and an open mind and in doing so discovered a maternal side of her that she never knew she had.
How did you know you were ready to become a Foster Carer?
The Fostering Company North East had a stand at my local park, so I went over and got some more information about fostering. I have always wanted to foster, and it felt like the right time to do it because I have the flexibility with work, being self-employed.
So, I went through the application process, then I went through panel and two or three weeks later I had my foster child who is 5 and still with me now. It was all very quick.
Why did you choose to foster with The Fostering Company North East?
Initially it was because they were literally on my doorstep, but then I met one of the Social Workers with The Fostering Company North East Workers, and she was just so nice, and she talked to me about the support they offer, and it just felt right.
What inspired you to become a Foster Carer?
When I was a child, I never wanted a biological child. I have always wanted to foster or adopt a child. Just knowing there are all these children who need help really made me want to become a Foster Carer.
How did you find the process of joining The Fostering Company North East?
It was more intense than I expected; they cover every aspect of your life. I’m quite open and there wasn’t a lot of paperwork, I just had to talk. I think if you’re just honest about everything, it’s fine.
How have you felt supported by the team at The Fostering Company North East?
My Social Worker helped prepare me for everything and told me what to expect. Before Joe* (the child I foster) came to live with me, I did feel stressed, so one of the Supervising Social Workers actually came with me to pick out the curtains for his bedroom. We had coffee and she talked with me, which really helped. My current Supervising Social Worker has been so helpful too.
They have given me general training as well as training for my foster child’s specific needs. He has also received therapy from the Clinical Services team. He has been working with a Clinical Practitioner, and a Psychological Practitioner, which has really helped him.
Do you feel prepared for this new chapter in your life?
I don’t have any other kids in my life, so he is the first child I am caring for. My Supervising Social Worker ran through different scenarios with me which helped, a lot of them have happened in real life, and I felt so prepared in those moments.
What impact has fostering had on you and your family?
I would say that fostering is the hardest and best thing I’ve ever done. Joe has made a lot of progress since living with me, he was non-verbal but now he is really chatty. He’s enthusiastic about everything. It’s just the two of us so he gets loads of 1-2-1 time. It’s really rewarding to see how much progress he’s made.
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What support systems have you found the most valuable?
My friends and family have been a brilliant support. My mum has given me practical support. Through The Fostering Company North East there is also a Carers Support group, which has been really helpful. The Fostering Company North East also have a buddy system, where they pair you up with other Foster Carers, we meet for coffee and it’s so nice.
What has been your favourite moment of being a Foster Carer?
The child I foster is very sweet. There are lots of funny things that Joe has said and done. He told me that I was his best friend and thanked me for looking after him, which meant a lot.
What advice would you give to someone who is considering fostering?
It’s important to be open and not have too many preconceived ideas about the child and the process. Also, pick your battles, as long as the things you need to get done, it doesn’t matter so much how it gets done.
*Name has been changed
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